Anonymous asked: I'm dating an older guy (I am 24 he's 38, and we are homo) we are in love, and everything is pretty much perfect, for now. I know he does not want kids ever and openly hates children. While I think its hilarious that he hates kids, I do know that I want kids in ten or fifteen years. I feel kinda shitty though knowing that in the future we may have to break up over this issue. Am I wasting his time? He says he doesnt care what happens in the future and is really happy now. what do I do?

Sade: He doesn’t care about what happens in the future and it’s all you can think about? Hmmm. I mean, I’m not going to sit here and tell you to break up with him because that’s not my style. And I firmly believe that if you’re happy now and you love him now, then there’s no need to end it. You say you want kids in 10 or 15 years? Then don’t worry about it for another 10 or 15 years. Look, I love you, I’m not trying to be a bitch, but 10-15 years is a long time from now. Do you realize how different your life could be? Chances are, you might not even be a couple (I’m sorry!) by then. You’re not wasting his time, he knows how you feel (you’ve spoken with him about this, yes? you better not come to be before you’ve spoken to him), and if he’s happy right now there’s no reason why you can’t be. Just enjoy your relationship. Things change, people change, but for now you’re HAPPY. I mean shit, all we have is now, everything else is undetermined.