Anonymous asked: For the last three years I have been friends with one of my ex's old best friends. Recently I realized that I like him as more than a friend.
I've discussed everything from relationship troubles to obscure movies with him and our conversations usually turn deep and introspective. He's one of the most intelligent people I know (book and people smart), as well as the funniest, and he's also an amazing singer (the kind that gives you chills). I look up to him and value his input. He's sweet, ambitious and no-nonsense. He's everything I could possibly want.
My problem is that I don't find him physically attractive. He's on the bigger side and I've never considered dating someone large. Am I being shallow? Should I just go for it? Has this ever happened to you?

Are you being shallow? Absolutely! But physical attraction is one of the most important parts of a relationship. If the thought of making out with him makes you gag, then there’s no hope of a real relationship. It’s never happened to me, so I can’t speak from experience but I wouldn’t let something like him go, he sounds fantastic. But, does he feel the same way about you? Wouldn’t you feel like a retard if you tried to go for it and got shut down? Look, I don’t think you’re as in love with this bro as you think you are. When you’re ready to date him, you’ll know because you won’t come to me for advice. You won’t give a shit about what I have to say because you’ll be in love with him and you’ll know. Don’t rush into it anything, your indecisiveness could really hurt him in the end. Right now I feel like you may be mislabeling your feelings as romantic. It is possible to love someone so much that it makes your heart burst, but not actually be IN love with them. There’s a big difference.